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Breaking Taboo: BDSM's No True Way

National Best Selling Authors and BDSM experts Eden Bradley and Ann Mayburn join Lakota to discuss the problems of the "one true way" philosophy in BDSM culture,  BDSM myths, obligations of BDSM writers to their readers who take in their fiction as fact, and the stereotype of the "monster Dom" or Sadist.

We also hit on the renewed allure of kink for the general public due to 50 Shades of Popularity.

Catch the shows several ways: on Soundcloud. or on Breaking Taboo Facebook Page, on Lakotaphillips.com (with new podcast pickle feature) on iTunes

Direct link: 

Breaking Taboo Podcast 2-23-15 (MP3: Click to Listen)
Find out more about National Bestselling Authors buy clicking on their names: Eden Bradley and Ann Mayburn

See post below for several links for Eden and Ann.

Coming next week on Breaking Taboo: BDSM with Eden Bradley and Ann Mayburn

On Monday Feb. 23rd National Best Selling Authors and BDSM experts Eden Bradley-Berlin and Ann Mayburn will join Lakota to discuss the problems of the "one true way" philosophy in BDSM culture as well as BDSM myths, protocols and the danger of misguided information. And we'll hit on the renewed allure of kink for the general public due to 50 Shades popularity. Show will go live at 5pm on iTunes and right here at http://coyotecave.blogspot.com/ AND on Breaking Taboo Page AND on Lakotaphillips.com AND on Soundcloud.... i'm not sure - do i have enough options covered? LOL!

I LOVE these women - they're brilliant and they're active in the lifestyle of BDSM so they KNOW what they're talking about. Join us Monday for one hellava awesome show!

Eden Bradley / Eve Berlin

Special Guest Eden Bradley

Real life kinkster Eden Bradley is a New York Times & USA Today bestselling author of erotica and erotic romance. She’s probably best known for her BDSM novels THE DARK GARDEN and DANGEROUSLY BOUND.  She loves art, shoes, tattoos, her Boston Terrier puppy Voodoo, lip gloss, reading dirty books and doing dirty things, often involving pain and a little mind-fuck.

NY Times & USA Today Bestselling Author of: 

~Dangerously Bound~Desire's Edge ~ Pleasure's Edge-Holt Medallion Winner!~Temptation's Edge-Passionate Plume Winner~~Available now from Berkley Heat
~The Dark Garden~Forbidden Fruit~Available now from Bantam 
~Riding Desire~Dangerously Inked~Rogue~Breaking Skye~Sanctuary~Getting Scrooged~Available now on Amazon, B&N, Smashwords, ARe
~Eversong~The Turning Kiss~Bloodsong~Summer Solstice~Wasteland: The Breeder~Spring Equinox~Winter Solstice~The Seeking Kiss~Tempt Me Twice~ Available now from Samhain
~Fallen Angel~The Lovers~Night Moves~Soul Strangers~Naughty Bits~Available now from Harlequin Spice/HQN
www.EdenBradley.com   
www.EveBerlin.com

www.Smutketeers.com 

Ann Mayburn

Special Guest Ann Mayburn With over forty published books, Ann is Queen of the Castle to her husband and three sons in the mountains of West Virginia. In her past lives she's been an Import Broker, a Communications Specialist, a US Navy Civilian Contractor, a Bartender/Waitress, and an actor at the Michigan Renaissance Festival. She also spent a summer touring with the Grateful Dead-though she will deny to her children that it ever happened.

From a young Ann has had a love affair with books would read everything she could get her hands on. As Ann grew older, and her hormones kicked in, she discovered bodice ripping Fabio-esque romance novels. They were great at first, but she soon grew tired of the endless stories with a big wonderful emotional buildup to really short and crappy sex. Never a big fan of purple prose, throbbing spears of fleshy pleasure and wet honey pots make her giggle, she sought out books that gave the sex scenes in the story just as much detail and plot as everything else-without using cringe worthy euphemisms. This led her to the wonderful world of Erotic Romance, and she's never looked back.

Now Ann spends her days trying to tune out cartoons playing in the background to get into her 'sexy space' and has accepted that her Muse has a severe case of ADD. Ann loves to talk with her fans, as long as they realize she's weird and that sarcasm doesn't translate well via text. You can find her on Website, Facebook, Pintrest and Twitter.

Email: ann_mayburn@hotmail.com Website: http://www.annmayburn.com/

The Politics of Being a Black Woman

Denise Tucker, Co-owner of Humanitree House joins me to discuss the social and cultural imperatives to fix and correct black girls and the self image message that conveys. Natural Hair movement, army regulations against natural hair and the social and economic hurdles black women have to overcome are also discussed.
Tune in for an enlightening episode of Breaking Taboo.

• Direct MP3 - click to play: www.lakotaphillips.com/Podcasts/2015-02-15_DeniseTucker.mp3
• Breaking Taboo on itunes
• Recent Shows on LakotaPhillips.com

Monday's Special Guest and the Politics of Black Hair

Denise Tucker will be on Breaking Taboo this week to talk about the politics of black hair, as well as obstacles black women still have to overcome in today's society.

Machere “Denise” Tucker Denise was born the only child to her parents in Falmouth, Mass in 1968. Although raised in Wichita, Kansas until graduation from high school, Denise has resided in Augusta, Georgia for 26 years where she has worked in a managerial capacity for several businesses to include the education system, legal arena as well as the arts. Her skills range from paralegal, executive administration, human resources, book-keeping to arts management. She is also an ordained minister and certified holistic health coach and Reiki and reflexology practitioner. In addition to these skills, she is consults with pantry makeovers, vegan/vegetarian catering and organizes juice fasts within the community. Always outgoing, she is said to have a very infectious personality with the gift to inspire, encourage and enlighten. Denise is the Co-Owner/Founder of Humanitree House Juice Joint and Gallery. 

She is the mother of two beautiful children, Symphoni Wiggins, who resides in Augusta, Georgia with her husband and Jordan Lipscomb who also resides in Augusta. She is the Grandmother of one Ze’lyn Walker. She is also a mother by love to three additional children Tahirah Greene (Harlem, NY) and Song and Sol Tucker (Atlanta, GA). 

Denise is married to Baruti Tucker. She has published two books “Healing After the Smoke Clears” and “Growing Up The Journey to Womanhood, Talking About that Time”. She has been published in the works of other authors and artists on approximately sixty-two occasions. Denise has a true love for women's healing and is an active peer and youth mentor.

Breaking Taboo- Valentines Special

My guest is Eva Morales, who grew up selling wilted flowers to unsuspecting tourists in Guatemala. After stowing away in a container smuggled in by Jesuit seminary students, she found her true calling as an on-camera diva... hawking everything from health insurance to miracle face creams. Today... she’s a writer who lives in an expansive villa in the Republic of Texas with her private militia and a gaggle of renegade chickens.

We discuss anti-valentines, 50 shades of middle aged kink, online dating: the pros and cons as well as how to make it work for you, and the upside and downside of being sexually active as we age.

• Direct MP3 - click to play: www.lakotaphillips.com/Podcasts/BreakingTaboo_Eva_20915.mp3
• Breaking Taboo on itunes
• Recent Shows on LakotaPhillips.com

Upcoming Breaking Taboo Shows

Eva Morales

Valentines Special - Feb. 9th

My guest next week is Eva Morales, a writer who lives in an expansive villa in the Republic of Texas with her private militia and a gaggle of renegade chickens.

Show will be posted Monday, February 9th on itunes, here and on social media. You can always find the mp3 link at lakotaphillips.com too. 

Upcoming guests and show post dates:

The Taboos of Black Women - Feb. 16th

Denise Tucker from Humanitree House will join me to discuss hair, taboos, self-identity, plus the annoying shit that black women have to deal with.

Eden Bradley

The One Twue Way - Feb. 22nd

National Best-Selling Authors Eden Bradley and Ann Mayburn join me to discuss BDSM myths, protocols and the danger of misguided information.

Eden's bio:

Real life kinkster Eden Bradley is a New York Times & USA Today bestselling author of erotica and erotic romance. She’s probably best known for her BDSM novels THE DARK GARDEN and DANGEROUSLY BOUND.  She loves art, shoes, tattoos, her Boston Terrier puppy Voodoo, lip gloss, reading dirty books and doing dirty things, often involving pain and a little mind-fuck. www.Smutketeers.com

Johnny Dam

A Dam Look at the World - March 3rd

Standup Comedian Johnny Dam, host of the Damage Report joins me to take a satirical stab at current events.

Also booked for shows through April are Steven Forrest, Susanne Monk, Kimmie Dee, Allan Coberly with Johnny Dam.

Stay tuned to this Rebel Station. 
Itune Shows:
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-taboo/id963509745

Reviews appreciated and rewarded with kisses and booty pinches.

OMG - My WHAT Got Sweaty?

I work out like a total beast at the gym. I figure if i'm going to take time out of my already busy schedule to run 6 miles and work the weights every morning then i'm going to make every last minute count, dammit! Which means i've had to come to terms with the fact that i sweat. A lot. I even have acrobatic flying sweat. Which has caused a no man's land perimeter to be set up around me by the other (non-sweaty) patrons. Smug bastards. Whatevah. Like a little sweat splatter ever killed anyone.

I've learned to not be self conscious about it. Or the fact that my face gets as red as my hair. There's a price to be paid, amiright? So what if I look like a flailing six year old when I run. And who cares if my nipples stand at attention through my sports bra. Pffft. Those two bitches get perky at any old excuse.

I'm used to this level of sweat... with bigger boobs of course...
and bigger ass... and my abs haven't looked like that in ever... but i digress.

But today... today it went too far. I wore a new shirt to the gym because my old black tee has gotten a tad baggy. While I ran I noticed the dark ring of sweat blossoming between my large and bouncy breasts. Noooo prob. I felt sweat run down my back and into the crack of my ass. Iz alright. It's fat crying, right? Or in my case, bawling like a hysterical infant. I can handle ALL of that.

What I can't handle is looking in the dressing room mirror and noticing that I have two perfectly symmetrical rings of nipple sweat standing out like carnival barkers, yelling for everyone to check out the slutty nipples with their come-hither hardness. Those bitches! How could they sweat on me? Who the hell ever heard of nipples sweating anyway? Breasts, yes. Asses, yes. Nipples, no! Just no.

Tomorrow I'm wearing my baggy black tshirt which at least has the decency to disguise the flagrant display.

Breaking Taboo: A New Breed of GMO, Bully Karma, and the Keystone XL

My Very Special Guest: Rick Overton, from Los Angeles, CA -  acclaimed comedian, actor and activist. 

Some of the talking points (not in any particular order):

• A New Breed of GMO
• Bullies and Karma
• Monsanto Going Down?
• Keystone XL Pipeline
• New Budget and New Obama?

http://www.lakotaphillips.com/Podcasts/2015-02-3_RickOverton.mp3
 (MP3: Click to Listen)

Yay for winning the technology battle!

One of my favorite pics of Rick with his pal Robin

Finally got the RSS feed software working and therefore could complete setting up new itunes for the shows. Seriously. It's taken months and several sessions with IT to get it straight.
I have a reputation for having an adverse impact on anything electronic or computer related. So this is huge. lol!

I'll be posting links as soon as itunes uploads the last show recorded (which you can access at lakotaphillips.com) and gives me a thumbs up on the setup.

In the interim stay tuned next week for Breaking Taboo with comedian and actor Rick Overton. We'll be discussing Monsanto, activism and the power of da people. If you have any questions for Rick (or me) email me at lakotaphillips (at) gmail and we'll share any good ones on the show.

In addition to being an amazing comedian and actor, Rick is a powerful advocate for people's rights.

Pitfalls of Honesty

Red Witch Silenced by Lakota

I attended the morning session of a TEDx event and one of the speakers asked who liked their jobs and saw themselves doing it for the next two decades. Like an idiot i raised my hand and noted the vast sea of unraised hands around me. (To be fair, there were a handful ...no pun intended... who also raised their hands. Out of 500 people.)

She also asked who thought they'd make a good talk show host. Well. Given what i do, I of course raised my hand. In a room full of people sitting on their hands. It struck me then that i was being too honest.  Again. I looked like a dork in a room full of well behaved professionals, who knew better than to raise their hands.

It's this problem i have. If asked a direct question I will automatically answer honestly. Even if the answer is uncomfortable to either myself, the asker, or both. I don't stop and think about that part. Will my answer benefit or harm the person asking? Do they have a right to the answer?

Fed up with the fallout of my over abundant honesty, my family has tried to coach me on evasive answers. My son will even practice with me. It not that he's trying to teach me to lie, so much as he's trying to teach me to keep my mouth shut, and not automatically spill information.... especially when there are circumstances that make truth inappropriate or unwanted.

I've said very inappropriate things in highly sensitive situations. Shocking I know. I have very few boundaries. My brain doesn't work quite like other people's and i don't have a high bar set for what is improper.  Okay  i don't have an improper bar at all. To be honest.

Add to that the fact that I'm a terrible liar. One of those people who trips over their tongue and looks aghast if i try to lie. I ain't fooling no one. So why bother.

But I am trying to learn discretion and the value of keeping my lips zipped, as well as accepting that lies of omission aren't really bad. Not REALLY. Especially when it's no one's goddamn business.

But a lifetime of being bluntly honest is a hard habit to break.

Functioning Under the Crush of Sorrow

I've been crying sporadically this week for no apparent reason.
Well, there is a reason. I've just been in denial over it. For two years now.

A couple is murdered and i sit at my desk and sob.
A fictional character dies and i have to take a break from reading so i can compose myself. That sort of thing. I'm usually much better at controlling myself.

I have the process of locking things up in tiny boxes inside and hiding those boxes in deep, dark corners down to a freakin' science. It's how i learned to cope with things in life that are impossible to handle.

It's not working this week. Possibly because it's the two year anniversary of my mother's passing. And i never really let myself cry. Just locked it all up and put it away so i could keep functioning.

Last weekend at a party a woman was bitching about her mother, complaining about how fussy she is and what a bother. I had to walk away to keep myself from grabbing her and shaking her to make her understand that someday, she won't have a mother. It's inevitable. It's coming.

I was told that the buried sorrow would eventually claw it's way to the surface and have to be dealt with. Yup. That was a truth. Now i have to function despite feeling like my heart and soul have been forcefully cracked open to free a river of tears that flows without regard to convenience. I was told it gets easier with time. That isn't true. Not this time. It gets worse.

I miss her. So much.
I wrap myself in her shawl and carry pieces of her jewelry with me to comfort myself, but there isn't any comfort to be found. I just have to wait i suppose, for the flood to ease so i can close the box lid again. Except maybe this time i won't push it into a dark corner and i won't lock it. This time i'll place it in a window sill where the sun can shine on the bright memories.

In the interim i'll function the best i can, trying to hide the sorrow.

BREAKING TABOO - Freedom of Speech and Selective Righteousness

Allan Coberly

New episode of Breaking Taboo with discussion on Charlie Hebdo, Nigerian slayings, Pervy Russian drivers, and so much more.
Allan Coberly, the New Breakfast Snob from Richmond's WRIR 97.3fm
joins me to dissect worldly matters and poke fun at Putin.

Breaking Taboo - 2015-01-20 Segment -> click to listen